Okay, let’s just get this out there: you are not supposed to know what you’re doing when you plan a wedding. Like… at all. And that’s not just okay—it’s normal!

You’ve seen the TikToks. You’ve pinned the photos. And now you’re wondering... should we do a first look?! It’s one of those wedding day choices that people either love or skip — and I’m here to spill the tea (with zero judgment). Let’s break it down!

Social media has totally changed the game when it comes to finding wedding vendors. Between curated feeds, dreamy reels, and tagged photos from real couples, it’s easier than ever to discover planners, florists, photographers, and DJs who get your style. But—and this is a big one—just because you find a vendor on social media doesn’t mean you should skip the paperwork. No matter how legit their grid looks or how many mutuals you have, a signed contract is a non-negotiable.