You’ve seen the TikToks. You’ve pinned the photos. And now you’re wondering... should we do a first look?! It’s one of those wedding day choices that people either love or skip — and I’m here to spill the tea (with zero judgment). Let’s break it down!

Social media has totally changed the game when it comes to finding wedding vendors. Between curated feeds, dreamy reels, and tagged photos from real couples, it’s easier than ever to discover planners, florists, photographers, and DJs who get your style. But—and this is a big one—just because you find a vendor on social media doesn’t mean you should skip the paperwork. No matter how legit their grid looks or how many mutuals you have, a signed contract is a non-negotiable.

You’ve tied the knot, danced the night away, and maybe even enjoyed your honeymoon glow! There are a few more things you can do that mean the world to the team who helped make your day magic... and they’re all totally free!

Here are some sweet (and simple!) ways you can show your vendors a little extra love after the wedding bells stop ringing: